Nice piece, and interesting research you cite at the top. I hadn't encountered that one before, and certainly hadn't thought as deeply about the lack of close friendships. But a lot of this makes sense.
Thanks! Maybe it's my desire for simple solutions but it does seem if friendship was treated with more virtue, some of our biggest problems would resolve themselves and disappear.
And here I am, commenting on another article on this topic again, (while my blog is dry). Here is my experience.
My ultimate goal was to be a wife, a housewife, to serve my husband and that's it. I am a traditional woman. My skin has no draws. I never aspired to be a parasite, I was always willing to help my partner in whatever way possible, however, I have not had any luck with men, neither as friends nor as partners. Today I have almost 50. I have lived alone since 2006, and I don't have even one friend, no one to talk to, no one to go out with, no one to fuck with, no one to do anything with. My life disintegrates digitality, into loneliness, silence and all kind of hunger. I don't hear my voice or any other almost all day, except music, and when I do go out I can barely get a long-distance greeting from someone who knows me. My acquaintances are all married, have large families and stable jobs. Each old relationship cost me ruin, today I am trying to scrape together a few dollars from my blog, but I get nothing. Let me promote my best post post so far: https://norsan.substack.com/p/free-article-after-mid-life-the-dreadful
I read part of what you said, and well, we live in a time where nobody wants to know anything about anybody, because "we know everything" through a post. We have become so dehumanized and distanced that the crisis of loneliness and suicide is increasing everywhere. The lucky few with stable relationships and lives are increasingly that, fewer and extremely lucky. We are all afraid, living in distrust.
I insist, we should stop talking about this and do something to reach out to the people who are drying up within their walls, send them a message, establish a bond with them, get to know them, know their stories, dedicate a couple of hours a day to them. Surely at first they will exasperate us, there will surely be mistrust, "red flags", but there is a human being there. We need to learn how to find each other again
That title reeled me in. Saving to read later 🙏🏻💗
Nice piece, and interesting research you cite at the top. I hadn't encountered that one before, and certainly hadn't thought as deeply about the lack of close friendships. But a lot of this makes sense.
Thanks! Maybe it's my desire for simple solutions but it does seem if friendship was treated with more virtue, some of our biggest problems would resolve themselves and disappear.
And here I am, commenting on another article on this topic again, (while my blog is dry). Here is my experience.
My ultimate goal was to be a wife, a housewife, to serve my husband and that's it. I am a traditional woman. My skin has no draws. I never aspired to be a parasite, I was always willing to help my partner in whatever way possible, however, I have not had any luck with men, neither as friends nor as partners. Today I have almost 50. I have lived alone since 2006, and I don't have even one friend, no one to talk to, no one to go out with, no one to fuck with, no one to do anything with. My life disintegrates digitality, into loneliness, silence and all kind of hunger. I don't hear my voice or any other almost all day, except music, and when I do go out I can barely get a long-distance greeting from someone who knows me. My acquaintances are all married, have large families and stable jobs. Each old relationship cost me ruin, today I am trying to scrape together a few dollars from my blog, but I get nothing. Let me promote my best post post so far: https://norsan.substack.com/p/free-article-after-mid-life-the-dreadful
I read part of what you said, and well, we live in a time where nobody wants to know anything about anybody, because "we know everything" through a post. We have become so dehumanized and distanced that the crisis of loneliness and suicide is increasing everywhere. The lucky few with stable relationships and lives are increasingly that, fewer and extremely lucky. We are all afraid, living in distrust.
I insist, we should stop talking about this and do something to reach out to the people who are drying up within their walls, send them a message, establish a bond with them, get to know them, know their stories, dedicate a couple of hours a day to them. Surely at first they will exasperate us, there will surely be mistrust, "red flags", but there is a human being there. We need to learn how to find each other again